The Dangers of A Toxic Childhood ✋🏽☣☢

Ecclesiastes 7:7 Surely oppression maketh a wise man mad; and a gift destroyeth the heart.

Ecclesiastes 7:7 kjv.

Unacknowledged childhood trauma leads to problems in a person’s adulthood if left unchecked and not properly healed. By the time an individual understands that they were raised in toxicity they will either keep the cycle of abuse going (they will go on to abuse their children, coworkers, friends, spouse etc.) or withdraw from themselves taking residence in the sunken place not knowing who they are, or understanding what’s going on around them.

I personally believe (I am speaking from experience) that childhood abuse/trauma damages the way a child sees The Most High God if trauma is left unresolved and not healed this can leave a person feeling inadequate and can cause them to run from God (rather than to Him) fearing that He will abandon and neglect them like their toxic family did.

The Bible says to train up a child in the way that he should go (Proverbs 22:6). What happens when a child is trained up in toxicity? Molded in resentment, and lacking healthy qualities given to them when they are nurtured in a safe environment. The effects can be very detrimental to a individuals growth spiritually, mentally, and emotionally matter of fact, it warps not only how they view themselves but how they also view God. Once the individual gets healthy healing (yes there are unhealthy ways to heal) they will start to understand that love is an action word rather than a word said to use, and abuse a person at will causing confusion and turmoil through means of manipulation, and deception.

As we get older, we need to learn to distance ourselves from those who radiate, or even entertain negativity. The Bible says that those who cause divisions manipulate those who entertain it by smooth talk (manipulation) and flattery (deception) they deceive the hearts of the simple.

Romans 16:17-18 17Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. 18For they that are such serve not our LORD Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.

A simple-minded person (in this case) is someone who rather “go along to get along”. They are the people in this type of dynamic who cannot understand or grasp the insight that they are being deceived and manipulated. They either participate willingly or they do not understand that their abuser is an ABUSER in my experience they are enablers and will turn on you in order to maintain a false sense of peace.

God is NOT the author of confusion (1 CORINTHIANS 14:33) but of peace. Just know where envying and strife is there is confusion and every evil work (James 3:16) and this can go on ANYWHERE! Toxic environments are riddled with demons and you must know that if your getting attacked or you feel shaken in this environment then The Most High has chosen to call you out of darkness and into His marvelous Light (1 Peter 2:9)

The child that was/is abused must realize that God is not like man better yet that Yahweh’s love does not come with sorrow but we must realize that any godly sorrow will come with repentance (2 CORINTHIANS 7:10) that will lead us to a closer relationship with Abba Yah. Any sorrow from this world leads to death. If someone is giving you love that comes with sorrow then this is NOT LOVE. We must not be afraid to give Yahweh our hearts He alone can heal us, He alone can deliver us, and He alone can redeem us. We must serve Him know that at the end everyone will have to give account of every idle word(Matthew 12:36), and evil deed that they have done to others.

And that is the most beautiful part of this whole story what people fail to realize is that they will give account to their actions they will have to answer to El Shaddai for EVERYTHING they have done. The pain they caused, the lives that they ruined that’s why its best to leave it in God’s hands because after all He did say “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. (Romans 12:19 kjv).

Just Remember Healing is a EVERYDAY THING, not a once in a lifetime event.

Love,

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Running from the Shame of Abuse 🏃🏽‍♀️💨

  • Observe the circumstances that are happening to you (You must notice that the relationship is abusive and toxic to your health)
  • Beware of evil (Be Aware of the evil around you. Be cautious and alert of those you surround yourself with KNOW YOUR ENEMIES)
  • Do not be ashamed if something concerns your soul. (If something worries you; makes you anxious especially if you have a reasonable reason as to why you feel the way you do don’t dismiss those feelings.)
  • For these is a shame that bringeth sin; and there is a shame which is glory and grace. (A person’s shame can lead them down a path of sin which can turn into varies addictions to mask the pain of the shame that they feel. Or the shame that they feel can lead them to turn to Christ and taking up their cross shedding their old man and going against everything that they were taught.)

Someone who has been abused knows what it’s like to want to run away. Wanting to run away from the toxicity. Wanting to leave the toxic environment to escape the pain that they feel.

In the beginning an individual often runs from the shame of the abuse they suffered. I know I used to run I lived in denial, and I felt that maybe my mother did love me but just in her own “special” way. When you run from shame you will look towards other things to soothe your pain (drugs, alcohol, sex, food etc.)

But when you run towards Yahweh with your shame, He will give you beauty for your ashes. Only He can give you glory and grace working in us and making us a new creature that turns pain into praise because He will never leave us nor forsaken us.

(Isaiah 61:3 – To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.)

And once this happens you will become a living and breathing testimony of deliverance for El Shaddai. Your pain will be transformed into praise. Your pain will become power that can and will be used against your enemies.

That is where the enemy knows the real power of redemption lies in our testimonies of YAHWEHS FAITHFULLNESS AND LOVINGKINDNESS. We are the proof of His love and His healing. Therefore, the enemy aims to keep you shame-faced and downtrodden. Shame can either bring you defeat, or you can use it to your advantage to move forward to have a deeper and loving relationship with The Highest.

The more your around toxic people the less you see El Shaddai’s plan for your life. The less you see His plan for your life the more you lean on outside forces that contribute to you adding more shame to the shame you already feel. Losing sight of your true purpose in this life. What Yah has called you to do.

This is why our Savior told us in John 10:10- The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

Yahweh wants us to have life, and to have it more abundantly. We must realize that the abuse inflicted on us was not our fault the environment we were in was sick in order for one to properly heal they must leave the environment where they first became sick. Shedding off the old man, and becoming a new creation in Christ.

Asking Christ to be your Lord and Savior takes away the shame of the abuse that was afflicted on you along with the weight and burdens of the pain you feel. Repentance plays a HUGE role in healing. The closer we get to Christ the more that we realize that He alone is our saving grace, and that nothing can separate us from His love and that when our mother and father forsaken us He will take us in. Only Yahweh can turn a broken person whole! Ask me how I know? Listen to my testimony on surviving abuse. Tell me if you can relate. 🙇🏽‍♀️

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Dedee ❤

10 Reasons You Should Go No Contact from Toxic Family in 2021! 🥳

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  1. You realize they use scripture as a weapon and often MISQUOTE IT to make you submit to their evils. Everything they say and do goes against the Word of God and when you do point this out to them, they take it as your trying to be “holier than thou”, or that you think you are better than them. The Word allows you to see through them and they do not like that. (Example: They are QUICK to throw up the 17-year-old you when you are 32… or they tell you that since you are not honoring them you will die early, but they leave out how parents should not provoke their children to anger)
  2. When you need help you are often ignored, mistreated, or made to feel like a burden you are often the one who gets called upon when others need assistance. Your help is always wanted if not EXPECTED. (Your questions and concerns often get dismissed as useless complaints.)
  3. Dealing with your toxic mother, father, siblings etc. takes more out of you than you can bear you often have a pensive attitude towards them. (Pensive definition- feeling sad while deep in thought) You often question yourself as to why your family treats you so bad, when you really do not do anything that contributes to their abuse questions turn into tears that fall down your face.
  4. When you have approached your family members about the toxicity, and dysfunction they sweep it under the rug, and downplay your concerns they typically take up for the abuser(s) and throw them a pity party to make your feel stupid for even questioning their evil.
  5. The more you think about your childhood, the more you realize that you were set up for failure. Family prized demoralized behavior, and worshipped abuse under the guise of love. You were not taught about real world values to help you succeed as an adult.
  6. When you try to get your life right (Examples: Getting closer to Yahweh, getting off drugs, going to school, eating right and working out, getting married and starting a family etc.) They do all they can to destroy any ounce of positivity in your life it is like they sit back and devise plans to destroy your happiness they frown on you making righteous decisions ESPECIALLY if you are moving into a direction where you will NO LONGER be dependent on them. (Which leads me to number 7)
  7. They want you to be dependent on them so that they can control you, and the moment when you show any ounce of independence instead of being happy for you (like any healthy person would be) they do all they can to destroy your progress. (Examples: telling you that you will fail, cursing you (my mother did this to me), starting fights with you, turning people against you with lies and speculation)
  8. They do not want you to grow, and when you do show signs of growing, they have no problem showing you how jealous and envious they are of you. (All the while making comments about how they are not jealous of you)
  9. As you get older you start to realize that they do not know you at all. They take more from you than they give. Your kindness is often mistaken for weakness, and love is replaced with angst. (Angst- a feeling of anxiety, apprehension, or insecurity.)
  10. They never take accountability for their behavior, they never own up to their mistakes, and they are quick to blame YOU for the pain that they afflicted on you. **WARNING- THIS IS A MANIPULATION TACTIC STRONG WITCHCRAFT. (Example: When I was 17 my mother kicked me out on the street, and I was living in a homeless shelter (that she dropped me off too) she would always tell me that it was my fault that she kicked me out and she had to do it because I was destroying her home, I would then feel bad, and apologize along with blaming myself for being homeless.)

Are You a Living Stone💎, Or Just Dead Weight??? 🤔

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1 Peter 2:5 (kjv)- Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ.

So many times during my life I have often questioned why I felt different, and why I just felt as though I didn’t belong even when I was a little girl I felt as though I was homesick, and my childhood home was just a place of temporary residency. It wasn’t until recently that I came upon the knowledge of who I actually was, so many times people call those who believe in Jesus Christ (Yeshua) “Chosen”, but what does that actually mean?

As followers of Christ we are LIVING STONES we are all of the following:

  • Resilient
  • Strong
  • Adaptable
  • Able to stand firm during the trials of life

We are like a tree planted by the waters that spreads out its roots by the river (Jeremiah 17:8 KJV). We are not bothered when the heat (trials) comes, and we always bear fruit (spreading the gospel of Jesus Christ) never anxious in the year of a drought (when speaking about the Word is not considered cool). We tell our testimony, that is one of the greatest weapons against the enemy (Rev. 12:11 kjv) We proclaim God’s goodness, and we live off of His Mercy His Mercy endures forever (Psalms 136). 

We are Chosen by Jesus to bear fruit for God (John 15:16 kjv)

John 15:16 Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.

We are called and chosen to be a HOLY and SET APART people to God. Proclaiming His coming and letting out light shine before men so that they can glorify Him which is in Heaven. (Matthew 5:16)

To the world we are a stumbling blocks, but to the Church we are living steppingstones being used by Christ to help others go deeper in God. We are walking, living, breathing stones. STRONG. HUMBLE. BEAUTIFUL. A masterpiece created in the image of Jesus Christ (Eph. 2:10)

Ephesians 2:10 (kjv) – For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.

Or, are you just dead weight? Are you bringing forth fruit? Do you witness to those who aren’t believers? Do you spread your love for God or do you hide your light? Jesus says in Matthew 5:14-16 14 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that[a] they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

Sin causes you to be DEAD WEIGHT. When a person is dead weight they are operating in darkness and the only works they can produce are dead works.

 Romans 8:6 For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace,

Many times, when a person becomes born again, those who are perishing mock, and ridicule them they often trivialize the persons walk and they make God into an image of an corruptible God. Men love darkness rather than light because their deeds are hid in the dark.

 John 1:5 kjv And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.

Being alive is hard but dying is easy. What are you doing with the life that God has given you? Are you helping or hurting? Do you have others in your life that is causing you more harm than help? If so, CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE they are just dead weight. Dead weight puts a heavy burden upon your shoulders if a person is not building you up, they are only keeping you down.

In Hebrews 12:1 Paul tells us “Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us”.

So, analyze yourself… Are you becoming a Living Stone, or are you just dead weight? Do you have dead weights around you, if so LAY IT ASIDE. Get rid of everything, and everyone who does not uplift you. Stay away from things that can easily beset you. Now is the time that we must seek God while He can be found, now is the time to witness to people who do not know Jesus! Share your testimony you never know who you will pull out the fire. Thank you for reading may Yahweh Bless You and Keep you on your journey of truth and righteousness.

Jude 1:23

“And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh.”

Sabbath Songs:Truth 🧎🏽‍♀️👑🌾🦋

The only good thing I have in this world is truth.

I pray to the Most High God that I don’t depart from it in my youth

We all have been through so much. All this world needs is Your touch Lord.

Oh! If men would praise You and Your glorious works!

Oh! If men would depart from evil and cleave to the truth

Seek the Lord while He can be found, seek the King so you can be safe and sound.

My Lord, My Savior, My Redeemer thank You God for Your favor.

Let blessings rain down not only on me but also on everyone in the body of Christ.

Protect us. Guide us. Keep us. Selah🦚

Dear God, You are Great and Mighty surround us now Lord and keep us safe from the powers of darkness. Lord destroy the wicked ones and all the attacks they have against Your children. In Jesus Christ Name, Amen

What is this world coming too?🥺🥺😪🤔

Food for thought: You are either getting closer to Christ or you are far away from Christ. The good news is that God can forgive you for your sins just ask for forgiveness with a remorseful heart. May God Bless You. Amen ❤👑😇

In this day and age I can see that we are in the end of days. Many people do not wanna acknowledge this but even a person who is not walking in the light can see that something sinister is in the air. People are becoming more narcissistic, and the demons that plaque them they are unleashing upon others.

I meet a lot of people. And one things we all have in common is that we all feel that something is on the horizon. This can be good for some, or bad for others one thing that I try to hold onto is my faith in Jesus Christ.

That’s all you really can do is trust in the Lord. Many people don’t believe but that will not stop His promises nor will it hinder His arrival. I long for you Jesus, to be in Your Divine presence.

This world is getting worst, and if you cant see that maybe your part of the problem and not the solution.

Jesus is coming soon. The mark is coming soon. Famine and wars are coming. Where do you stand? Who do you believe in? Do you have a strong foundation in Christ??

God’s power will be seen all over the world. So whether you believe or not, you will see HIM. May God bless you all and give you Divine strength during these trying times we are close.

*Special Edition* Sabbath Songs: Freedom 🎈👩🏽‍🎓

Lord, what is a man that You are mindful of Him? As humans we want so much but all we really need is You and the freedom only You can give. I’m confused El Shaddai as I type this I have tears come into my eyes. Give me freedom from this fallen vessel and from this dark world, only You can give me peace and perfect stillness that captivates my Soul. Where am I going Lord? Who am I going to encounter I am praying Jesus that I see You soon I am hoping that I can get a drink from Your everlasting Spirit. I need You Lord, I need You more than ever right now I need guidance Lord I need You to show me the way YOUR way. I have been lazy lately forgive me El Shaddai please Lord don’t pass me by Lord seal my head be my shield Lord cover me with your perfect peace still.

Only You can give me freedom, and only to You I look for my freedom. It’s not about protest, it’s not about money. It’s not about a job promotion. No it’s about You and the comfort You provide I want to sit in Your presence Lord I want to experience the freedom that only You can give. I want to be still and know that YOU ARE GOD. Forgive me Lord for everything I have every did wrong to You and others. Help me to stay strong in You Jesus. Lord let me remain in You. Lord my Spirit cries out for You. Lord. I wait for thee…..

Please Lord Come Near me…. I need You more than ever. Your Love. Your Comfort. Your guidance. In Jesus Christ Name I pray. Amen (so Be it)

Dedee

Sabbath Songs: Rest 😌🏝

I crave to rest in the Lord

I want to rest in my King

I praise You Lord for loving me

We are wayward children who really need your love

Thank you Lord for watching us from above

Thank you Christ for setting me free

Thank You Jesus for having mercy

I will give You my best

Because only You Lord give me rest

Thank You El Shaddai, for the comfort only You can provide. Selah 😌😌😌😇👸🏽

Sabbath Songs: Deliver Me 📦👰🏽💞

Save me Lord. Can you please deliver me?

I beseech thee Lord for all your tender mercies.

Can You restore to me what the enemy has stolen?

Can you make free my soul and get me out of this hole and

I call on You My God, and my King.

I will always praise You because You make my heart sing.

Deliver me Jesus! Save my soul from hell

Help me Jesus, please Lord let me drink from Your well.

I long to be free. I long to be okay.

I long to be in Your arms on that faithful day.

Lord, Your blood cleanses us. Lord Your love also preserves us.

Deliver me Lord. Heal me King. I am thankful for all your mercies.

Selah [♥]