Hello My Beautiful WordPress family I am coming on here to let you all know that 6:00 p.m Central time I will be going live on Youtube Tune in as I talk about when you should cut ties with toxic family (Also Known As) going NO CONTACT. I will tell my testimony, and I will also be using scripture. I can also answer questions is you want to ask me any.
I’ll be talking about what circumstances led me to go no contact, and understanding when it is appropriate for you to cut off toxic family even when it’s those closes to you (mother, father, siblings etc.)
I hope you can tune in 🥰 Thank you all for your encouraging words and support
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You realize they use scripture as a weapon and often MISQUOTE IT to make you submit to their evils. Everything they say and do goes against the Word of God and when you do point this out to them, they take it as your trying to be “holier than thou”, or that you think you are better than them. The Word allows you to see through them and they do not like that. (Example: They are QUICK to throw up the 17-year-old you when you are 32… or they tell you that since you are not honoring them you will die early, but they leave out how parents should not provoke their children to anger)
When you need help you are often ignored, mistreated, or made to feel like a burden you are often the one who gets called upon when others need assistance. Your help is always wanted if not EXPECTED. (Your questions and concerns often get dismissed as useless complaints.)
Dealing with your toxic mother, father, siblings etc. takes more out of you than you can bear you often have a pensive attitude towards them. (Pensive definition- feeling sad while deep in thought) You often question yourself as to why your family treats you so bad, when you really do not do anything that contributes to their abuse questions turn into tears that fall down your face.
When you have approached your family members about the toxicity, and dysfunction they sweep it under the rug, and downplay your concerns they typically take up for the abuser(s) and throw them a pity party to make your feel stupid for even questioning their evil.
The more you think about your childhood, the more you realize that you were set up for failure. Family prized demoralized behavior, and worshipped abuse under the guise of love. You were not taught about real world values to help you succeed as an adult.
When you try to get your life right (Examples: Getting closer to Yahweh, getting off drugs, going to school, eating right and working out, getting married and starting a family etc.) They do all they can to destroy any ounce of positivity in your life it is like they sit back and devise plans to destroy your happiness they frown on you making righteous decisions ESPECIALLY if you are moving into a direction where you will NO LONGER be dependent on them. (Which leads me to number 7)
They want you to be dependent on them so that they can control you, and the moment when you show any ounce of independence instead of being happy for you (like any healthy person would be) they do all they can to destroy your progress. (Examples: telling you that you will fail, cursing you (my mother did this to me), starting fights with you, turning people against you with lies and speculation)
They do not want you to grow, and when you do show signs of growing, they have no problem showing you how jealous and envious they are of you. (All the while making comments about how they are not jealous of you)
As you get older you start to realize that they do not know you at all. They take more from you than they give. Your kindness is often mistaken for weakness, and love is replaced with angst. (Angst- a feeling of anxiety, apprehension, or insecurity.)
They never take accountability for their behavior, they never own up to their mistakes, and they are quick to blame YOU for the pain that they afflicted on you. **WARNING- THIS IS A MANIPULATION TACTIC STRONG WITCHCRAFT. (Example: When I was 17 my mother kicked me out on the street, and I was living in a homeless shelter (that she dropped me off too) she would always tell me that it was my fault that she kicked me out and she had to do it because I was destroying her home, I would then feel bad, and apologize along with blaming myself for being homeless.)
2 Timothy 3:5-7 kjv 5Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.6For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,7Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
I would have to say that 95% of the people in the world are entangled in bitterness. Bitterness is described as anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly i.e resentment. Anger and bitterness goes hand in hand along with unforgiveness, and many other works of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-22) our society is dominated by bitterness, and narcissism is often praised. Society pumps up over sexualization of humans, gossip, rebellion, and toxicity. Women who are bitter are often revered and pushed forth as an example for how women should be, and a lot of these women profess to know Christ but there heart is far from Him. Abusers, backstabbers, and unrighteous we as followers of Christ MUST be able to judge a tree by it’s fruit even though a person may claim to believe in Jesus does the person’s actions follow? ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
The Bible warns that these types of women are silly women who are taken into captivity (weighed down by the burden of their sins) and lead away by evil temptations. Always learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. The Bible tells us to stay away from these types of people. The Book of Proverbs which was written by Solomon a book of perceived truth based on common sense and experience in life talks a lot about these wicked women, and how we as righteous people should avoid them at ALL costs.
In Proverbs 5:6 it tells us that her ways are movable (crooked) she will never be straight up with you because she does not think seriously about the path of life, and thou canst not know them meaning hanging with her you never know where the path leads or what trouble is around the corner. There is always drama, and confusion in her midst she is a roaring lion seeking whom she can devour her feet go to death, and her steps take hold of hell.
The bitter woman always preys on the strong the weak are merely used as pawns to get her will done to help her cultivate her wickedness (flying monkeys ring a bell?). They are intimidated by the confidence that a strong individuals wields, and the beauty that their pure soul radiates. They make it a goal to dominate, disintegrate, and to dissimilate the character of an individual that is walking in the Light the freedom that we display terrifies, and vexes their spirit.
Proverbs 14:1 says ” A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands”
Women like this are normally their own worst enemy , yet they do not know it they tear down their own spouses, children, and friends (if they have any) co workers she then blames them when they get as far away from her as possible, and accountability is nowhere in her actions saying sorry is never on her lips.
She comes across as sweet with her slick manipulations, but in the end she is as bitter as poison and as dangerous as a double-edged sword. ( Proverbs 5:4) The bitter woman cannot be TRUSTED she isn’t even loyal to herself you can tell by her actions, and the words she speaks of others. Histrionic, and cruel. Cold, and disheveled is the bitter woman. She has a form of godliness (religion), but denies His power by the evil works she puts forth.
Gossip is a big hallmark for these bitter women they are always in someone’s business, or fishing for yours. It tells us in the Bible to not be deceived evil communications corrupt good manners. (1 Corinthians 15:33)
By the grace of God, and His GIFT of discernment I can easily spot the signs of a woman who needs deliverance, and those women who are in bondage. Growing up in an abusive household has also given me some leverage. The facial expressions always give them away they barely smile and their expressions is left in a twisted countenance of hatred. They are often times loud, and simple knowing nothing (Proverbs 9:13).
ECCLESIASTICUS 25:17 KJV “The wickedness of a woman changeth her face, and darkeneth her countenance like sackcloth.
God says they are counted as dogs (Ecc 26:25).
A bitter woman marks a woman ruled by disappointment, and defeat. She has ALOT of emotional baggage that must be given to God in order for her to become whole. A broken woman seeks to break others, and they seek to rob others of their peace, joy, and security in the Lord.
Jesus tells us in Mark 12:31 Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.
People only treat you, how they treat themselves you shouldn’t be surprised that many people do not love themselves. If they have no love for themselves how can they love another? How can they claim to love Yahweh when they don’t display love to others or themselves? Out of a mans heart flows the issues of life. Jesus shows us a full representation of what love truly is, and He didn’t say it. HE DISPLAYED IT through acts.
So, the next time you run into a bitter woman remember to remain in the Light and to be an example of God’s goodness and display His love to these individuals. Bitter people can’t be happy for you because they are disgusted with themselves. Bitterness is the mark of one who feels that God has “forgotten” them. So pray for them, don’t get ugly with them after all we all were once bitter before Christ redeemed us.
1 Peter 2:5 (kjv)- Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ.
So many times during my life I have often questioned why I felt different, and why I just felt as though I didn’t belong even when I was a little girl I felt as though I was homesick, and my childhood home was just a place of temporary residency. It wasn’t until recently that I came upon the knowledge of who I actually was, so many times people call those who believe in Jesus Christ (Yeshua) “Chosen”, but what does that actually mean?
As followers of Christ we are LIVING STONES we are all of the following:
Able to stand firm during the trials of life
We are like a tree planted by the waters that spreads out its roots by the river (Jeremiah 17:8 KJV). We are not bothered when the heat (trials) comes, and we always bear fruit (spreading the gospel of Jesus Christ) never anxious in the year of a drought (when speaking about the Word is not considered cool). We tell our testimony, that is one of the greatest weapons against the enemy (Rev. 12:11 kjv) We proclaim God’s goodness, and we live off of His Mercy His Mercy endures forever (Psalms 136).
We are Chosen by Jesus to bear fruit for God (John 15:16 kjv)
John 15:16 Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.
We are called and chosen to be a HOLY and SET APART people to God. Proclaiming His coming and letting out light shine before men so that they can glorify Him which is in Heaven. (Matthew 5:16)
To the world we are a stumbling blocks, but to the Church we are living steppingstones being used by Christ to help others go deeper in God. We are walking, living, breathing stones. STRONG. HUMBLE. BEAUTIFUL. A masterpiece created in the image of Jesus Christ (Eph. 2:10)
Ephesians 2:10 (kjv) – For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
Or, are you just dead weight? Are you bringing forth fruit? Do you witness to those who aren’t believers? Do you spread your love for God or do you hide your light? Jesus says in Matthew 5:14-16 14 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that[a] they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
Sin causes you to be DEAD WEIGHT. When a person is dead weight they are operating in darkness and the only works they can produce are dead works.
Romans 8:6 For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace,
Many times, when a person becomes born again, those who are perishing mock, and ridicule them they often trivialize the persons walk and they make God into an image of an corruptible God. Men love darkness rather than light because their deeds are hid in the dark.
John 1:5 kjv And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.
Being alive is hard but dying is easy. What are you doing with the life that God has given you? Are you helping or hurting? Do you have others in your life that is causing you more harm than help? If so, CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE they are just dead weight. Dead weight puts a heavy burden upon your shoulders if a person is not building you up, they are only keeping you down.
In Hebrews 12:1 Paul tells us “Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us”.
So, analyze yourself… Are you becoming a Living Stone, or are you just dead weight? Do you have dead weights around you, if so LAY IT ASIDE. Get rid of everything, and everyone who does not uplift you. Stay away from things that can easily beset you. Now is the time that we must seek God while He can be found, now is the time to witness to people who do not know Jesus! Share your testimony you never know who you will pull out the fire. Thank you for reading may Yahweh Bless You and Keep you on your journey of truth and righteousness.
“And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh.”
The only good thing I have in this world is truth.
I pray to the Most High God that I don’t depart from it in my youth
We all have been through so much. All this world needs is Your touch Lord.
Oh! If men would praise You and Your glorious works!
Oh! If men would depart from evil and cleave to the truth
Seek the Lord while He can be found, seek the King so you can be safe and sound.
My Lord, My Savior, My Redeemer thank You God for Your favor.
Let blessings rain down not only on me but also on everyone in the body of Christ.
Protect us. Guide us. Keep us. Selah🦚
Dear God, You are Great and Mighty surround us now Lord and keep us safe from the powers of darkness. Lord destroy the wicked ones and all the attacks they have against Your children. In Jesus Christ Name, Amen